I Don't Need to Go to Church

Ever reflect while you're driving? I was doing this today and a conversation I had over the weekend with one of my favorite peeps in the world popped into my brain. She had made the statement that she didn't feel that she needed to go to church to have a relationship with God, which I agreed with and gave her a quick summary as to why I do. While I was thinking about that conversation, I realized that I gave her a basic, churchy response.

I think God deserves a little more than a basic, churchy response. This is my do-over.

*Quick disclaimer: what you are about to read is all based on the one statement mentioned above and nothing else. Furthermore, I am not saying any of the actions below are actions of the unnamed person referenced to have made the statement mentioned above. Lastly, I am not judging.  Anyone. I am providing an explanation for my actions so don't go there.

For me, going to church is the equivalent of going on a date with the husband. {As I elaborate, feel free to change the word husband to wife, best friend, or the name of the VIP in your life.} The husband and I don't need to talk to each other everyday for us to have a relationship. We don't even need to talk throughout our day to be in a relationship. This also includes going on dates, hanging out with friends, celebrating special occasions, celebrating each other. I don't need to listen to him, spend quality time with him, do nice things for him, do things for him especially when I don't feel like it. And because we're in a relationship, I don't need to base my decisions or even act like I'm in a relationship with him if it doesn't benefit me or is an inconvenience. 

I don't need to go to church in order to have a relationship with God. I also don't need to spend time with Him everyday, talk to my friends about Him and all the great things He does for me. I don't need to listen to Him, celebrate Him or act like I'm in a relationship with Him if it doesn't benefit me or is an inconvenience.

Here's the difference between my relationship with my husband and my relationship with God; if I did even just half of the things mentioned above, ultimately, the husband might not love me so much. He may even leave. If I did all of the above-mentioned things, God will continue to love me. He loves me, not because of who I am, but because of who He is.  And do you know how I know God loves me?

His son died a horrific death to save me. Me.

I can honestly say that I don't know if I could give up my son's life to save someone else that I love, let alone someone I love who reciprocates that love in ways that are only convenient for them.  I enjoy going to church as much as I enjoy hearing stories about the Hubs in his pre-wifey years.  I enjoy going to bible study as much as I enjoy hanging out with great friends.  I enjoy reading the bible, praying, and doing service projects because they strengthen my relationship with God. Just as spending quality time, communicating and doing things for my husband will build our's.  Does that mean I don't want to sleep in Sunday morning or skip bible study? Heck no! But I would also rather watch a chick flick than another Bourne movie, but for some reason I've watched all 8 of them.  It happens because of this crazy, silly thing called love.

Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his unlimited patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life. - 1 Timothy 1:15-16

Go to church or don't, if you've accepted Christ as your savior, God's got your back. Always. Just remember, He simply wants to spend time with you too.


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